Many of us have had experiences that taught us to alter,
abandon or cut off parts of ourselves.
We freeze, go quiet, erase ourselves and become a smaller,
tighter version of ourselves, living our lives in fear, overwhelm
and apathy.
You might feel broken, but you are not broken.
You might have problems, but you are not a problem.
At your core lies an unwavering strength and a fierce
resilience, though you may have lost touch with it along the
way. It’s always been there – and it always will be, even when
you feel disconnected and unsure of yourself.
You just need to know where to look for it.
NeuroAffective Therapy uses intentional mindful touch and exploratory body-centred dialogue to bring the unhealed memories held in the body into conscious awareness for transformation and release.
Acquiring a cognitive understanding of why we are the way we are is only part of the story. In order to change, we must also listen to the body’s inner voice
Our bodies tell the story of our struggles to love and be loved
NeuroAffective Touch enables the release of fear and tension in the musculature and organs and cultivates the heart connection that supports post-traumatic growth.
Emotional injuries of abandonment, neglect, abuse, and betrayal may be maintained as pressure on the cranial base and brain stem, respiratory diaphragm, heart, or digestive system.
These unresolved injuries and mis-attunements remain as ongoing threats to the nervous system. This locks the chronic emotional shock in place long after the initial trauma has passed.
The ability to address chronic emotional shock goes hand in hand with nurturing and healing a dysregulated physiology.
“Yogis use a beautiful Sanskrit word samskara, to describe the knots of energy that are locked in the hips, the heart, the jaw, the lungs. Each knot tells a story–a narrative rich with emotional detail. Release a samskara and you release the story. Release your stories, and suddenly there is more room to breathe, to feel, to experience the world.”
While we can’t change difficult situations of the past, we can work together to better understand and resolve challenges in your life
What happens?
This body based psychotherapy works for those times when there are no words, when words are not enough, or when words get in the way.
NeuroAffective Touch uses intentional mindful touch and exploratory body-centred dialogue to bring the unhealed memories held in the body into conscious awareness for transformation and release. Integrating the body, brain, and nervous system with traditional psychotherapy
NeuroAffective Touch transcends the limitations of talk therapy for healing early relational wounds offering a space where the nonverbal language of our bodies can be unlocked to access the deep layers where the emotional shock and overwhelm are stored
In a collaborative process of dialogue, we call into play your own healing resources and listen to the story your body is holding. In providing a compassionate space for the story to be lovingly heard, we reveal the roots of the story, allowing it to be released so that the impact is no longer felt in the body.
Release the trauma story so we have more room to live, to breathe, to feel, and to find joy in our lives and in the world.
Hakomi’s gentle, powerful body-centered approach reveals, heals and transforms the beliefs and habits that keep you stuck – the things that work against you, to hold you back, keep you silent, keep you small and invisible to the world.
Grounded in the neuroscience of relational psychotherapy, Hakomi focuses a compassionate lens on the areas where we all struggle – the unmet needs, the unhealed wounds, unresolved traumas, suppressed truths and disrupted boundaries that emerge when we believe ourselves to be inherently lacking or wrong in some way
Instead, we explore what gets in the way and stops us turning up for ourselves with acceptance and presence.. Together we rebuild trust, respect, safety, openness and connection so that you can open those doors with curiosity to explore the endless possibilities that exist for you.
Come join me in unraveling the parts of you that keep you stuck
About Hakomi
By investigating habitual cues from the body, the Hakomi approach quiets mental static to discover what’s beneath repetitive storylines. So much can shift, expand, and grow when we
· take time to listen to ourselves,
· give voice to our inner thoughts,
· know that we have a skillful guide to support us on this journey
It respects the wisdom of the body and its instinctive ways of responding to trauma, anxiety and stress and recognises the importance of allowing the process to unfold at its own pace; moving forward as you are ready.
Often, we’ve lost connection with who we truly are, at our core, instead of doing the healing work we try to manage the pain of our experience.
We develop ways to cope – some helpful, some not. This can lead us into harsh judgment, needless anxiety and lack of self-worth.
Whether it’s a past trauma, niggling anxiety or you feel like life is spinning out of control, this work will help you put the pieces of your life together as you find your way home.
Unshakeable. Unbroken. Powerfully You
What Happens?
Our work together will be “experiential” with a focus on what is happening for you in the “here-and-now” of our session. We will tap into the wisdom held in your body and the power of mindful self awareness, a practice that builds bridges in different parts of the brain, allowing for new possibilities in emotional patterns and access to new choices.
The focus of our collaborative sessions will be on:
· engaging and shifting core beliefs
· finding both ease and aliveness,
· connecting with your existing tools and building new resources,
· designing the life you want now.
Working with me will include periods of tuning in to sensations and emotions, mindful reflection, active inquiry, and working with the present to understand and heal the past.
I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore and unlock the story held in your body, so you can show up in your life more meaningfully and powerfully.
Have you ever thought you’re the reason your life is a bit of a mess ?
It’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you… like who you are is just not good enough. It could be that your mean -inner -girl is running the show and you would like to find a compassionate approach to hold the judgements and self-criticisms that sabotage you.
Everyone has a voice inside their head that guides their decisions. This voice may be obvious or completely subconscious. But if you’re engaging in any sort of negative self-talk, you can bet it’s getting in the way of your life. The first step to battling this beast is recognizing it. Once you recognize this dialogue, you can begin to rewrite the script.
IT’S TIME TO TAKE A STEP TOWARD THE LIFE YOU WANT
IFS Therapy helps clients form a deeply satisfying relationship with themselves and others, unburdening their trauma and accessing their self-energy , presence and compassion.